Parenting through divorce isn’t always simple. Your kids are who they are, and they’re going to react in ways that you’re not always able to predict. Sometimes, the way you want to parent and the way you have to parent will be at odds with one another.
Even more complex is the situation with your ex- or estranged spouse. Even if you both are able to communicate with each other, you may have significantly different ideas about how to raise your kids.
Parenting is hard, but you can ask for help
Parenting is hard, even without a divorce. When you’re in the middle of a divorce, though, your parenting can take a hit. You might have your own concerns and may be depressed or anxious. You may struggle to keep up with everything you need to do (or want to do).
Take a deep breath and remember that you and your ex-spouse are still a team when it comes to your kids, and you can set up a custody schedule that gives you both time to breathe. You need to be able to take time for yourself to recover, so you can be there for your kids.
You and your ex-spouse need to put your kids first, making sure they’re cared for, going to school, eating and getting the support they need. However, you also need to recognize when more help is needed. You may want to hire an in-home nanny or a babysitter to give you a break, or you may want to call on friends or family for input into reducing stress.
Kids will adjust to divorce, just as you will over time. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help when you need it, and you will get through this tough time in your life.