You love the idea of moving to the city, but you know that your divorce might hold you back. Presently, you and your spouse have lived in a neighborhood far from the city, in a highly rural area. You don’t love how long it takes to drive your kids to school or that they have no friends nearby. Your family is also a half-hour or more away, when they’d be just around the corner if you moved.
Moving is a big deal after divorce, though, because it would directly affect your children and custody plan. Your spouse wants them to continue to go to the school they currently attend, but you want them to enjoy better schools in the Bay Area. You think that they would thrive being closer to your family and having friends nearby in the neighborhood.
Disagreements about how to raise your children following divorce may be frustrating, but you can take steps to resolve them. To start with, you’ll need to talk about which scenario is really best for your children. Depending on your children’s ages, they may have their own opinions about moving, too. For example, a teen might love the idea of heading to the city area where they can meet new people, or they might want to stay in the rural area with the community they grew up with.
Though it isn’t easy to decide, the best thing you can do is to put your child’s interests first. Think about which school is better, which situation will be easier on you and your ex-spouse and how to make custody arrangements fair. If you can’t agree, you can turn to the judge for help making a decision.