Focusing on your own emotions may help your child during divorce

Flicker, Kerin, Kruger & Bissada LLP

Like most California parents, from the moment your child was born, you likely knew that you would do anything for him or her, especially when it came to protecting your child’s well-being. You may have experienced instances where you had to protect your child from the various household dangers and other physical hazards that could affect a small child, but when it came to protecting him or her emotionally, you have had a more difficult time.

Though you would love for your child to never experience any type of emotional pain, it happens to everyone. Now, you wonder how your children will fare as you and the other parent go through a difficult custody battle.

Remember your own emotions

One of the best ways to help your child through the divorce and custody process may be to focus on your emotions. If you end up overly stressed and worried about the ordeal, your child will likely pick up on the tension. Additionally, your emotions could cloud your judgment when it comes to making the best decisions for your child. Some ways you could help protect yourself and, ultimately, your child during this time include the following:

  • Set boundaries: Though your ex may be great with your child, the reason for your divorce may be that you two do not get along. If your ex constantly wants to bombard you at all hours with arguments about custody, set boundaries regarding times you can talk and methods of communication, such as text or email.
  • Be self-aware: As mentioned, your emotions can greatly affect your decision-making ability and your child. As a result, you may want to remain conscious of your feelings and remember what is true about you, especially if your ex tries to make you out to be a bad parent or person.
  • Consider compromise: You want the best custody outcome for your child, and even if the other parent is making the process difficult, you can do your part to reach a reasonable agreement. You should not let the other party walk all over you, but compromise can be helpful in some instances.

While your child will certainly be your top priority, it is important that you take measures to ensure that you can make the best decisions for him or her during this time. One of those measures may also be enlisting the help of an experienced family law attorney who could help you understand your options for reaching the best child custody outcomes.

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